Most of the characters in the 90s sitcom Friends weren’t parents, but they have been there for me through every stage of motherhood.
I was 11 when Friends premiered, but it wasn’t parent-approved television in our house. When I was a little older, I caught up on all the episodes and watched it weekly through the remainder of its 10-year run. My college roommates and I hosted a watch party for the final episode. “I got off the plane.” Rachel + Ross 4EVER.
There is a Friends quote for most life scenarios, which my friends and I blend seamlessly into everyday conversation. After college, the lines fit our life stage of dating hits and misses (“See? He’s her lobster!”), entry-level jobs that were hard to explain (“He’s a transpondster!”), and DIY moving day woes (“PIVOT!).
When I became a parent, my brain continued to process life according to the words of Monica, Chandler, Rachel, Ross, Phoebe and Joey.
For those former 90s teens who feel like you, too, know these characters as well as your actual friends, here are some of my favorites that lighten the everyday challenges of parenting:
When my 3-year-old asks, “May I have milk, a tissue, a snack, dinner and a hug? Now?” while I’m changing his diaper:
“I’m kind of in the middle of the last favor you asked me.” – Phoebe to her brother, while pregnant as a surrogate for his triplets.
When my kid wakes up early from naptime:
“We were on a break!” – Ross to Rachel or anyone who asks about their breakup.
When I’m asked to play “construction site” for the 85th time:
“I wish I could, but I don’t want to.” – Phoebe, when asked if she wants to help the guys.
When my 3-year-old claims the 1-year-old hurt himself:
“Can’t hold her own head up, but yeah, jumped.” – Ross to Rachel when they lock Emma in their apartment by mistake.
When packing up the kids, shoes, bags, coats, snacks and drinks to go anywhere.
“I need you to be careful and efficient. And remember: if I’m harsh with you, it’s because you’re doing it wrong.” – Monica, when packing up the apartment.
When my kid explains how electricity works, in broken English:
“Have I been living with him for too long, or did that all just make sense?” – Rachel when Joey explains a “moo” point.
When we’re strapped into the car and my kid tells me he has to go potty:
“You should have thought of that before you got in!” – Phoebe screams at Ross while recklessly driving him to the airport.
How have the Friends’ words been there for you while parenting? Share in the comments below!