My kids are spoiled.
I want to give them the world. I never want them to go without but now I see the harm that I’ve done from giving in.
One night, my son was scared in his room. My husband and I debated on whether or not we should let him cry it out or just have him get in bed with us. We decided to let him come sleep with us… that was a while ago.
He is still in our bed because now when bedtime comes and I put him in his room, he looks at me with those big beautiful blue eyes filled with tears and says “I want to sleep next to you, mommy” and my heart breaks.
I know that part of being a mom is saying, “No” and standing your ground but I also know that it means being a problem solver so when I see my sweet boy crying in his room, I feel a need to fix the problem by loving on him and letting him sleep comfortably in my bed. I know this may not be the right solution but I want my babies to be happy and feel safe at all times and it is kind of comforting knowing that they feel most safe with me at night.
When we would go grocery shopping at Meijer and Lucas asked for a toy, I’d say “Sure!”
I thought, “He’s been good today and if we keep it under $15.00, it won’t break the bank so why not?”
Now, when my son asks me for something and my answer is no, he doesn’t always take it well. I say yes more often than not because there isn’t always a reason not to but now I see that I have created something slightly unhealthy. Giving in so much has spoiled him. It is hard because he is a wonderful boy and very well behaved (just a little hyper) so when we have the means to give him what he asks for, it can be hard to say no. However, he does get a little sassy when we tell him no after so many years of hearing yes.
I just want my kids to feel loved and happy at all times.
I give in too much. I don’t stand up to my little guy nearly enough because I don’t want to see him cry or crushed. He gets in trouble when he throws a fit but I try to remember what it was like to be his age and want something so bad so I pick my battles.
I don’t want to spend my day yelling and being the bad guy constantly especially when most of the time its just me doing the disciplining. My husband is wonderful and has been working very hard out of town on the weekdays to provide for us which can make it a little more complicated when I am disciplining. Lucas just sees ” Here we go again, mommy is getting on me about something”. My son gets away with more than he should because I don’t want him to think mommy is always mean all the time.
Fortunately, our daughter is still a baby. So hopefully, we can correct the mistakes that we have made in the past and hopefully, I will get a backbone when it comes to my kids.
My kids are spoiled and being a parent is hard.
